The Power of the Fly on The Wall, by Silvina Irwin, PhD & Lisa Blum, Psy.D

Many couples can readily name what they so often fight about (parenting; money; the in-laws, sex), but not as many know how they fight or disconnect from each other – and how their very attempts to address a point of pain with their partner may backfire. Partners can end up unintentionally dancing their mate into a doomed exchange -– a “Demon Dialogue.” ˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜˜ A First Look at the 7 Conversations of A Hold Me ...

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We’re All Just Turkeys in the Same Turkey Soup

I want to share some thoughts on attending a Hold Me Tight Workshop for Therapists and Their Partners. There are exquisite moments between partners that arise in the sacred space of mutual vulnerability, risk taking and openness with each other. These are the moments that allow secure attachment to grow. These moments anchor me in my work, and I treasure them. I have the privilege of experiencing this with the couples I work with in my office, as well as in the Hold Me Tight Workshops that I facilitate with my dear friend and colleague Lisa Blum. Prior to facilitat...

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Don’t miss Michael Barnett – EFT and Addictions – 3/14/2015

March 14th we have the privilege of having Michael Barnett join us for our next community meeting to discuss his work with couples and addictions.  He will join us from Atlanta where he directs the Atlanta Center for EFT and conducts training throughout the Southeast. Michael conducted a similar interactive video presentation with one of my classes this past summer. Michael is passionate about his work and his energy and enthusiasm for this topic is engaging. I was impressed with Michael's practical insight and ready application of EFT to couples where addiction ...

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EFT Study Groups: Santa Monica, San Gabriel Valley & San Fernando Valley

The peer study groups support deepening an understanding of the theory and practice of EFT after having taken an externship. Groups will include discussions following video presentations, as well as discussion on EFT literature and individual cases. Groups will meet monthly for one and a half or two hours. Karen Fiedler's group will meet in San Gabriel Valley on the last Saturday of the month from 10:00 am to noon starting January 31st, 2015. Veronica Thomas' group will meet in San Fernando Valley on the second Friday of the month from 10:00 am to noon starting January ...

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LACEFT Now an APA and BBS Continuing Education Provider

As one of our first communications on the website, I want to let the members know that LACEFT is now an approved sponsor of continuing education for psychologists through the American Psychological Association, and an approved provider of continuing education for MFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs through the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.  We will offer Continuing Education Credits for our fall program:  Home is where we start from… and some find it hard to leave: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy: working with adult relationships.  Jim Furrow will be our ...

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LACEFT Board Election

I also want to introduce the members to our new board members.  Joining the board this year, after our first ever board election are Lisa Blum (who will serve as treasurer), Joe Cantu, Sophia Chang, and Silvina Irwin.  Please see the board page for full bios on all of our board members.   We are looking forward to their ideas, and the growth that they will bring to LACEFT. A special thanks to Sondra Goldstein, who has left the board.  Sondra was one of the founding board members, and has been a great help on the board.  She has been a practical, thoughtful, and ...

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LACEFT Has A New Look

Thank you to Robert Ogner and Jim Furrow for their hard work in putting together our new website.  And to Brian Janes, our website builder, who has given generously of hi s time and expertise.  We look forward to having this new tool for LACEFT members to communicate with each other.  We have envisioned a website like this since we started LACEFT, and now, thanks to the three of you, here it is!  Please explore the new site and the new directory.  This site is a first half of a two-part project. There will be second site designed as a content-rich resource for Los ...

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