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4-Day Externship in EFT with Drs. Silvina Irwin and Lisa Palmer-Olsen – Pasadena, CA

May 1, 2019 - May 4, 2019

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The Next Externship in Pasadena with Drs. Silvina Irwin and Lisa Palmer-Olsen will be May 1st-May 4th, 2019.

Click here to register for the May Externship.

“ The caring environment Silvina creates makes it really safe to learn and grow, and her empathic clarity has helped me organize and integrate the model in ways that take my clinical work to a whole new level of depth and healing.”

Wed, May 1, 2019 to Sat, May 4, 2019
Pasadena, California
9:00 – 5:00 each day

Join Drs. Silvina Irwin and Lisa Palmer-Olsen for this powerful training to learn how to work effectively with even the most challenging couples. This training will be held in the Pasadena area, location TBA.

Specific Educational Objectives for each day:
Day 1: Introduction to Couple Distress, Attachment Theory, Process of EFT
1. Describe the nature and causes of marital distress
2. Describe basic Attachment Theory and how it informs working with couples in EFT.
3. Describe the systemic and experiential elements of EFT.
4. Describe change factors involved in a couple moving from distress to recovery.
5. Describe the Nine Steps and Three Stages of EFT.
6. Practice the basic empathy skills that are central to the therapeutic process in EFT .

Day 2: Assessment, Alliance Stage 1 (Steps 1-4 of EFT)
1. Describe and practice assessment skills in EFT
2. Describe and practice how to create a therapeutic alliance using: empathic attunement, validation, acceptance, genuineness.
3. Describe and practice how to enter experience of partners to find out how each constructs his/her experience of their relationship.
4. Describe and practice how to track and frame the sequences of interaction that perpetuate couples’ distress.

5. Describe the difference between primary and secondary emotions.
6. Describe and practice how to frame the negative cycle (e.g., pursue/withdraw) emphasizing attachment needs (e.g., closeness, connection, importance of the other, fear of loss).

Day 3: EFT Interventions and Change Events Stage 2 (Steps 5-7 of EFT)
1. Describe systemic and experiential theories that underlie EFT interventions.
2. Describe and practice the basic EFT interventions for working with emotion, i.e. reflection, validation, evocative responding, empathic conjecture and heightening.
3. Describe and practice how to use RISSSC to heighten emotional experience.
4. Describe and practice how to facilitate interaction between partners by using enactments.
5. Explain how to put the interventions together to facilitate change events.
6. Describe the three change events in EFT: de-escalation, withdrawer engagement and pursuer softening.
7. Describe and practice the skills of accessing, exploring and deepening emotion.
8. Describe and practice the skills of facilitating acceptance.
9. Describe how to choreograph change events using enactments.

Day 4: Becoming an EFT Therapist/Attachment Injuries
1. Explain attachment injuries from an Attachment Theory perspective.
2. Explain the steps toward resolving attachment injuries, creating forgiveness.
3. Describe affairs from the perspective of attachment theory.
4. Describe and practice EFT skills toward resolving attachment injuries.
5. Describe an EFT approach to managing co-morbidities 6. Summarize ways to continue learning EFT and refining skills in this method of therapy.

ICEEFT Stance on Diversity

We aim to cultivate a climate of inclusion, an environment where all can feel safe, valued, cared for, and given an opportunity to form meaningful connections with each other. In all facets of our work we strive to embody what we hope to see in the world – a just, loving humanity and community in which people are free to be themselves fully – where people can embrace their most basic universal human attachment needs without fear of persecution or marginalization as a result of religion, race, ethnic or national origin, sexual orientation, gender expression, age, class, mental health, physical character or disability. These values are inherent in the attachment science and humanisti approach to intervention that all our work is based on.Specifically, humanistic approaches such as EFT are collaborative and respectful. We create a safe place for people and treat them as persons not problems or types. Our approach is non-pathologizing in practice. Our values are inclusive and egalitarian while viewing human connection as sacred – something to be honoured and cultivated. Our scientific and theoretical base outlines key universals, emotion and attachment, while respecting individual difference


May 1, 2019
May 4, 2019

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